Lord a mercy – I need a donut and maybe a tiny glass of baileys. 😳. I can’t tell you the last time drop off was like today. Woof. I slept in today and got up and put on my red lipstick and was ready to greet the world. Immediately I realized that just because my day is set up for success doesn’t mean it will go perfect. . Sometimes we all just get grumpy. Today was that day for a few. I wish that I could schedule them… Like one at a time but we know that’s not possible.
What I need you to hear me say is no matter what kind of day your child is having here they are safe with me. I bought a sign that said… You are safe here. And I mean that with my whole heart. Even on bad days
Thankfully I have tools that I can revert to otherwise I would be joining the chaos. There was a couple times I thought about climbing the fence and being upset with them but I knew that would not help. Do you ever have days like that at home?
Even on the worst days your kids are safe here. Don’t worry about me, I will absolutely self medicate after school 🧁🍰🍧🍫🎂🍦🍭🍪🥧🍩
Just like I do for myself there are some things that make drop off better for children in the morning.
1. Try to make sure your child gets up early enough to have some lap time with you. Even if it’s only 10 minutes – I know that’s not always easy but it is necessary. It helps for them to spend time just being with you. In the car doesn’t count because then that becomes a separation issues between a parent and the teacher- I am breaking up the party. Get up a few minutes early each day and spend time being together before you leave for school.
2. During this time that you have with your child make sure all of your conversation about school is positive. Talk about the fun things they’ve done in the past. Talk about the things they may want to do. Remind them of how brave they are and let them feed off of your confidence. Have you ever had someone ask you how your days going and you just start with one thing and it turns into ten ? Kids do that too. There’s no reason to ask them why they feel the way they do or why they’re sad… Because in reality they don’t know. It’s just Preschool emotions. But when you ask and talk about it a lot it surely going to come to the surface. Be positive.
3 I know this is a hard one but in the mornings especially when children is struggling it needs to be a drop and a run. With all the confidence you can muster and a big old smile say have a great day and let me take your child from your vehicle to the door.
4. Setting good routines also helps with children adjusting. Are we all getting enough sleep at night? Are we on a good schedule? I usually see grumpiness on Thursday or Friday and that’s after a long week of school.
I’ve done all the things that I know to do here. I have family pictures. I have a visual schedule. I have all of the social emotional support like book, poppers, pictures, puppets and weighted animals and most importantly – my lap.
I know some of this is hard. But when you doubt yourself or you doubt me go back and look at the hundreds of pictures I take a look at the smiles on your children’s faces. You know they are safe here. You know they are having a good time. You know what your expense experiencing is temporary.
Some days no matter how good you are at what you do it’s a stinky day Those are the days we learn the most. Those are the days we learn how other people live sometimes every day. I am thankful it’s few and far between for us.
Mom’n is not always easy. Same goes for preschool.